“Habéis oído... pero yo os digo...”

Cada vez que alguien “contradiga” lo que se supone establecido, como un absoluto verdadero, habrá alguna reacción, cuando menos mental y hasta emocional. No se trata -necesariamente- de refutar, de negar lo que otro piense, sino de añadir algo superior y, quizá, más verdadero.

Jesús perfeccionó cumpliendo las cosa que sólo se decían. Si lo veo como un pecador, no tendría moral para añadir a lo que no cumplía más, siendo el que Dios escogió, el hombre en quien Su plenitud habitó, Dios mismo daba crédito y testimonio a lo que Su hijo amado decía (siendo Dios mismo el Espíritu que hablaba junto con su hijo).

Son varias las citas en que Cristo parecía “abolir” lo que dijo el Padre, y eso puede investigarlo usted mismo en Mat_5:22, 28, 32, 34, 39. ¿Jesús contradijo al Padre? Simplemente hizo ver una verdad nueva y perfeccionada.

Si alguien dijo, alguna vez: “...la raíz de todos los males es el amor al dinero...” (1 Tim. 6:10) Jesús dijo algo mayor y, dicho de los males humanos: La raíz de nuestros males está en no amar a Dios primeramente; y está en no amar al prójimo, como debíamos amarnos a nosotros mismos (Marco 12:32-33, Lucas 10:27). Fíjese que, Pablo mismo, aclaró tal verdad, de otro modo: “Rom_13:10 El amor no hace mal al prójimo; así que el cumplimiento de la ley es el amor.”

Es posible que, quienquiera que contradiga una verdad, padezca la apatía, la indiferencia, incluso la animosidad de quienes oigan una opinión distinta, porque se va contra una enseñanza largamente aceptada como principio, particularmente si ello va contra lo que se estima como un sistema religioso, contra la identidad de un grupo y lo que se supone la verdad que -cada individuo- está llamado a defender, privada o grupalmente.

Jesús no refutó al Padre, añadió y perfeccionó, cumpliendo lo que decía. Su verdad era superior a la práctica de Sus días, Su significancia era superior: Dios mismo hablando por la boca de Su hijo y, desde mi punto de vista, mucho gira al culto al personalismo a lo que hayan dicho los apóstoles y, en ese mismo sentido, Saulo Pablo habló de lo que oyó en su tiempo: “1Co_1:12 Quiero decir, que cada uno de vosotros dice: Yo soy de Pablo; y yo de Apolos; y yo de Cefas; y yo de Cristo.” Y, siendo más justo a lo que deseo de mí mismo, digo: “1Co_3:4 Porque diciendo el uno: Yo ciertamente soy de Pablo; y el otro: Yo soy de Apolos, ¿no sois carnales?

Si en ese tiempo había culto al personalismo, a la fama y a la parcialidad -hoy- también lo tenemos y, en relación a Jesucristo ¿Qué es otro hombre o mujer?

1Co_3:5 ¿Qué, pues, es Pablo, y qué es Apolos? Servidores por medio de los cuales habéis creído; y eso según lo que a cada uno concedió el Señor. ”

Dios juzgue lo que deseo haga de mi espíritu. Tengo celos del Señor Jesucristo, no de Pablo ni de enseñanza de hombres.

Asking the removal of pictures from social sites

 Some time ago my last ex-gf asked me to get removed several of my pictures I had on FB. That happened before I had deleted that account, a thing I did to get rid of the past that is finally passed. That moment she felt I didn´t have the right to keep them as "something" public I have memories (either good or bad) and she really upset me with her several claims but, the fact, it is I also saw her male friends telling her things like: "You are so pretty", "I love you" "you are so cute" or "charming and marvelous". How come wouldn´t I be somewhat "endangered" of having a relationship with someone who had a good body shape, sex appeal, who also had more "friends" than I think I had?

I was absolutely informed and aware of her past, her intimate secrets and confessions, her deepest desires as being a lusty woman.

I thought she was a committed Christian, more than me; so I also believed we were to be married, while she was "afraid" of me and my human longs (or habits to keep memories).

She claimed she had the right to ask me to remove those pics where I was with some of my EXes, but she wasn´t aware I knew she had too many men flirting (or wooing) around, even in front of me, and I also had total access to a complete set of her pictures where she was naked (...) and each time I was with her, her phone often received private SMSs from those I knew were more than simple or casual friends and, the few times we traveled, she introduced me to several of those who were her long-termed admirers (though I knew two of her EXes) and I also saw those who were pending to get an empty seat whenever I wasn´t present to take care of her emotional drives.

If you presently feel jealous for the odd habits and girlie friends your BF (or gf) has, know you chose him that way when you entered into that relationship. It is right and holy to be jealous and unsure your emotional investment would last or if it worth the emotional pain, but I´d bet you don´t have any reason for him to feel that same way insecure or embarrassed.

Aren´t you doing the same he does (or did) before coming closer?

If you want to be heard, if you want him to be stopped from those girlie pics you don´t like, I bet you don´t have pictures uploaded where you are also inappropriately (un)dressed on the beach, where you are shown publicly the nice looking woman you think you are to be bragged with, because many engaged or married people still try to be sold out as it is in window-shopping. ;)

It is not a secret there are controlling women who often like to rule men and how blind these are to see we men also feel jealous and those "fears" commonly shared (of being left any moment) are present in all humans when someone else comes to “seize” the woman we have liked (or simply entertained) for a time as long as she gets someone she thinks better.

It doesn´t matter the religion we say we are: We all want the best Mrs. / Mr. Right to be picked! I can vainly argue to show my wants are more “holy” than those who want to be married above, in heavens. What I wanted was equally desired by the living and the dead men!

I´m sure, before choosing our significant one as GF (or bf) we all needed to fast and pray to see if we were really directed to that person because we viscerally clung to her, or because it was GOD leading us to that person; because a constant fight to gain (and deploy) trust may erode an enduring trustiness and, statistically it is said that after more than a year, anyone might encounter -and discover- things no one knew before loving the one we should have avoided from the beginning: If he or she is seeking another person´s charm, just being engaged with you, a relationship like that deserves no real emotional commitment neither an emotional investment.   

I wish I were told.

I never planned to be married, neither to be a father (a thing I´m biologically, and not the way I have thought I could be).

I assumed that after you divorced you´ve found too many reason to it or, on the other hand, you ex-mate found enough reasons to be divorced and far from you (and me). It´s failure not acknowledging them where, sometimes, there are more than several guilty parts and, often, these hidden flaws are from either of their families or passed on the children left after separation, too.

Why did the Scripture ask high priests to marry only virgins? 

Some of those reasons probably were:

a) They had to work in the temple being absent more than a month  () far from their beds and houses, as long as their duty and service to GOD ended.

b) Probably the Lord wanted them to be relieved from emotional secular worries.

c) Priests were not supposed to be economically rich and, according to the Law, they would be “paid” from what their spiritual service gave them to live on, through God´s provisions (Num 18:23  But the Levites shall do the service of the tent of meeting, and they shall bear their iniquity. It shall be a perpetual statute throughout your generations, and among the people of Israel they shall have no inheritance.).

What would be the character of a woman like that? 

Do they permited too many freedom their women? Such as visiting their masculine friends their homes and alone?

Culture sharpened our present day and its fashions lead us nowhere. 

I started to believe that the present day rates of divorce have too much to do with marrying without chastity, either of both sexual genders. If we would pay attention at this, life could be different, I guess.

Lev_21:14  He must not marry a woman who has had sexual relations with any man. He must not marry a prostitute, a divorced woman, or a widow. The high priest must marry a virgin from his own people. 

Eze_44:22  The priests must not marry a widow or a divorced woman. No, they must only marry a virgin from the family of Israel or a woman whose dead husband was a priest.

If GOD planned something big like that for those who served Him directly, why don´t we consider it an important information?

I wish I were young to marry one like those God thought for a simple man.

Guess what! Men, like me, never cared what others might find in their families, the sort of people they let their children to be and, at the end of the day, divorce is increased and single parents are seen the more, because I paid too little attention to the one I should have married and neither they paid enough attention on me to be sure if they chose me well.

Luk 6:31  Do for others just what you want them to do for you.

The GOD I believe.

For me it is important to say that I see only one GOD and only one Mediator:

1Ti 2:5  For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus,

Act 4:12  And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved."

(Heb 9:15,  12:24)

These last days GOD would do His job more individually and personally. Jesus said:

Joh 6:44  No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him. And I will raise him up on the last day.

Joh 14:6  Jesus said to him, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

The Holy Spirit is God Himself:

Joh 4:24  God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth."

The book of Acts teaches us how things were working those days Jesus physically left:

Act 7:55  But he (Stephen), full of the Holy Spirit, gazed into heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of God.

Act 7:56  And he said, "Behold, I see the heavens opened, and the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God."

Mat 12:31 "So I tell you, people can be forgiven for every sinful thing they do and for every bad thing they say against God. But anyone who speaks against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven.

I started to believed God -and the H.S.- is the very only ONE.

Isa 42:8 "I am YAHWEH. That is my name. I will not give my glory to another. I will not let statues take the praise that should be mine.

Gen 6:3 Then the LORD said, "My Spirit shall not abide in man forever, for he is flesh: his days shall be 120 years."

Ezek 36:27 And I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules.

Ezek 37:14 And I will put my Spirit within you, and you shall live, and I will place you in your own land. Then you shall know that I am the LORD; I have spoken, and I will do it, declares the LORD."

Joel 2:28-29 "And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my Spirit on all flesh; your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, and your young men shall see visions...

Mat 12:18 "Behold, my servant whom I have chosen, my beloved with whom my soul is well pleased. I will put my Spirit upon him, and he will proclaim justice to the Gentiles.    (That´s the Lord Jesus).

Act 2:17 "'And in the last days it shall be, God declares, that I will pour out my Spirit on all flesh, and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams;

Act 2:18 even on my male servants and female servants in those days I will pour out my Spirit, and they shall prophesy.

That´s the GOD I´ve believed!

ONE God and His chosen one, Jesus, the King of Kings. (Rev 19:16, 17:14; 1Ti_6:15)

Secular Hedonism.

After reading this: "Psa_73:3 For I was envious of the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. " I have thought that I know what that means.

Yesterday I spoke to my elder brother and mentioned several things I bypassed or he bypassed.

I see his system of beliefs is so around things he thinks he missed and around those he is aware he really regrets not having...

I saw, to myself, that a faith-based society clumsily set on wrong values would cause ME troubles (also lacks) to live a faith that gives me nothing in turn and, instead, keeps on withholding things I think I need, however I know not all things are needed to live.

I can live without a car, but the society I´m living in pushes me to believe a car is "essential" to be a desired person, to be "deeply" loved or admired (even sought as a singled person) (probably to be a dateable one).

Those wrong values I let to leak inside my beliefs would benefit my faith and, on the contrary, would lead me to disbelieve what I could be saying...

My faith serves me for nothing when I said: "The things I want to feel, the pleasures I want to enjoy, my religion -mingled with my value system- tells me not to seek this or these". So, in that case, that faith works against those things I considered important, desirable and enjoyable to seek and, a faith like that, giving me nothing real I can hold, pulls me away and far from the place I want to be.

The things I want to enjoy, far away from those whom I once said "I love you", are felt contrary to my aims, my dreams and human needs and values.

Time and things have shown me they loved me not. We have had a limited life for nothing, embraced in misery and religious tiny things that cared for nothing and those that really mattered were to spare me from suffering when I wanted to enjoy the mundanity of earthly life, so abundantly that these would never please.

Jesus was aware of those who He met teasing people around with man-made rules (Matt 23:4 They make strict rules that are hard for people to obey. They try to force others to obey all their rules. But they themselves will not try to follow any of those rules. ).

Pharisees so loved to control other people´s needs and their visceral longs ( Matt 19:10 ) and those were unwilling to set limits their own secular hedonism. So, materialistic talking, poverty or wealth have an important role in all religious systems (even in the way each approaches to sex). The more one of these three is considered above the other, our views about certain faith or belief will grow or dim, because ALL human nature tends to be hedonist: The more joy or pleasure we have freedom to seek or get, the better that religion could be seen (or sought) to be believed and lived.

Wealth/ poverty is part of the mundane world we were grown in and sex if part of its secular rewards we want to enjoy, particularly if we feel loved the way we think we are.

Uncommitted believers are alike atheists and agnostics: Both can hurt and have hurt believers.

These only seek one thing: Give them what they wanted and see what it feels.

How many times?

How long will you please those who know how to hurt you?

I´ve tried, more than once, to be melt into one person with one who is not that I thought and they also thought I was the person they needed: I wasn´t the one they wanted too!

I have tried to adapt myself to the ones they were, but I knew it was quite wrong: That it wasn´t the yoke it should be best.

Are my goals, my hedonism or needs the same they said they had?

No! That should be a miracle, and it´s, in deed.

Love Priorities

[ I believe that both the husband and the wife have to make the other's sensitivities their priority. You must put your spouse's wants and needs above your own hopes and desires. If the couple both practice this concept things generally go quite well. hurt feelings are avoided and deep love and respect for each other remains.  [QUOTE]

Good morning!

Allow me to show I agree with you, except where the line of priorities needs to be set and revised.

I really love seeing this you mentioned: "You must put your spouse's wants and needs above your own hopes and desires". I think this is an important line to be drawn between both life partners but, personal hopes, desires, etc., cannot be postponed too long neither utterly denied. Not that even the LORD has His own spiritual expectations from us, as believers.

I like this words (1Co 13:5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; ...). I think of these as words inspired (though I don´t mind admitting issues with some of  Paul´s teachings).

I have perceived women have largely postponed too many thingsbecause of rearing their children for love (purposely I´m saying "theirs") because many of them have believed they are "the boss" in the family for everything and, sadly, they certainly know more their children, much more than us, unattached fathers (the problem I see is who is paying bills, and who is bearing the heavy plowing yoke, all the along, while children are growing up).

I had the pleasure of being "a mother" several years. I was laughed at, criticized, but I learned the lesson well. The thing I had it was redrawing that line too frequently and I got bored, so I left the yoke in her hands, because I also experimented dissatisfaction in the sexual area, the area of personal grow and achievements, and I felt like a sucking blood parasite (yet receiving nothing in turn I thought worths keeping).

Committed love partners certainly could learn to deal with their issues, for the sake of that love bond. I have seen several women who have been used (and abused) as the "well paid" maid. She has to do everything, even in their sleeping and boring bed (so these women have felt postponed, largely denied and neglected) and the same thing applies also for men, thought to be macho men. It´s sad, but I have seen it both ways and, additionally, recently I know one of my brothers was simply used to raise her mate´s kids and, soon after, she cheated on him and he worked hard to pay for the food of the children of another men he owed him nothing (except the wrong of having accepted a woman he did not married, but he took on charge, with her children, as well). Sad thing that is! (the same has happened to other women I know, she also cared too much children of other women) so there is where that line of priorities has to be underlined, clearly drawn, for EACH person priority: My responsibilities and her responsibilities (here I also agree with some ideas Mr Biscuit has mentioned before).

If I love I should seek my partner desires BUT, sometimes (and too often) being that way a caring spouse spoils each peoples responsibilities and, the line drawn to show where are EACH person duties is moved as I were using a funned giving me more benefits "thought" just for me.

In the bed, since women are quite different, I should consider their needs first. These are quite different from mine but, sometimes, that same "funnel" is sought to be for everything they wanted and, that female dissatisfaction is shown everywhere in life when we macho men are sued to be divorced.

The truth is, not every macho is being divorced because there are some funnels giving women benefits and I know it both sides: There are also ladies being used to give men, instead the other way around.

I just wondered what would be the real amount of people willing to do what you wisely said: I know that is true and should be our Christian view, the thing is we´re not behaving as we should.

There are so many "funnels" being used (abused) that I don´t want to be in either of both sides. These extremes are so abused, emotionally, economically sexually that I wish my life ends so soon; because I´m vulnerable to be both sides and I don´t see it fair. No one deserves to be used nor abuse, that´s way I believe equally joked dates or mates should be sought with a magnifying glass (particularly when I could be the one seeking the narrow bottom to get everything, giving nothing in turns).

Priorities:

Paying the bills in a fairly way. Generally ladies spend more $ than men (1) and if you had the chance to pay what you have consumed (2) that would be the better than making another person to pull that yoke.

(When you have loved -men or women- you´ve tried to pay it all).

Thanks GOD ladies now are willing to work outside... The bad news is also known and either of both genders are vulnerable to be cheating, though the rent is seldom paid by an outsider (let it be known I have seen there were men {and women} paying rent + services (while others enjoyed getting the narrow side of the funnel in their pockets).

As a matter of "priorities" two or 3 years ago I was with someone who told me: "This bots I got were paid by my ex husband, but these were greatly enjoyed by another..." She was somewhat my GF. The moment I knew it, I knew she was seeking her BBD... I wondered when I would stop thinking so selfishly and, as long as I live, I don´t want to use that "funnel", none of its sides (acknowledged is that the narrow side would be the best for anyone).

Since there is not sure deterrent to erasing or misplacing a wrong line between borderlines, responsibilities and priorities, both men and women could be vulnerable to more mistakes. These lines are to be checked so frequently that I´m bored...

I wish I were a disembodied spirit, now.

Ideally this could be sought "You must put your spouse's wants and needs above your own hopes and desires." but the truth is: Too many committed Christians (and unbelievers also) are seen their life as individuals denied and more complicated with “outsourced” children the never wanted to care.

Perhaps that´s the reason why many persons don´t want to be married, and those who are seeking it now (those who are called sexual perverted) look after it for money, their legal convenience (someone who takes cares after me when I get old or sick, many are seeking their visa, others long to get their "own" roof, a brand new car some else has bought, a ca$h flow provider while I´m lazy, no matter the gender or sex tendency).

That is not love!  Because love is free and expects nothing in turn (except loyalty, emotional and sexual exclusivity) and perhaps I dared to say too much.

Love gives, instead of taking for selfish gain.

1Co 13:6  it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

There are too many committed Christians (and unbelievers also) who have been denied there personal priorities and this is more complicated to feature when one single person is pulling the yoke, each day and alone the more.