There is an interesting human behavior in society and on the
Internet. I would name it “Hide and Seek”, but surely mind researchers
have named it properly.
I've seen the way how many people use to dress up each day, but on
Fridays, many of them wear the “best”, same way church goers dress up to attend
some meetings.
All the week dress like common workers or the average, but on
Fridays they look better fashion and, the reasons are many concerning
socializing, their going out with somebody. Isn't it like wearing mask or uniform?
My sister's daughter told me some of her reasons... The company
where she works gives its workers permission to relax, to wear casual on
Fridays and she feels better, but she has to keep the company's standard and
executive modesty.
As an outsider, I see how girls try to look sexier on Fridays,
wearing higher shoes when going to work, and I cannot not be fooled they are
free to do what they're pleased and allowed by conventional common laws but, Am
I keeping God's standards of modesty?
I cannot deny the fact that I've looked one some girls the way I
shouldn't but, Am I the only one fighting against the lust of these eyes?
Some of them have looked me down while I just stared or felt
“alive”. Ja! Ja!
I'm not the only. I know of girls, ladies and men who struggle the
same (we all are humans). There are some fleshy ideas coming when we look
wrongly at someone we considered sexy or nice looking, since we were trained to
think the way the world keeps on teaching and I'm thankful married women or
engaged couples have noticed that certain “naked” fashion and open-minded
social behavior make any to look “sexy” or humanly desirable, far beyond normal
friendship or casual dating.
God's fashion and dressing standards are being learned by those who
walk in His Spirit. Those who know how eyes can lie, and are developing self
control, even when we can forgive -sometimes- Jesus gave us a lecture on
avoiding looking at persons lustfully (it's a human drive that calms
down when being married) (sometimes)
I'm thankful for those women who hide and are dressed up with
modesty, married or not. These are the ones who know what they want and what a
man can really offer her to be married. I'm against free open-minded dating,
unless I have known a young lady willing to marry me but, if we haven't been
good friends, the road is lost... I have wasted time!
On the Internet I foolishly laughed on some tricks I know. I've seen
dissatisfied women pretending to be single or separated, but they're not alone.
Some single mothers “hide and seek” same ways like men, but these last
are easily understood, because this has always happened on secular society, and
the “law” permits any to lie and hurt others under common social consent.
I know real stories of men and women cheating on line. Some of them
pretended to play a fair hide and seek game, but many were married or
engaged to another, and some of my female friends have told me sad stories
where they felt a real love, they felt being loved by the appropriate Mr
Right One and, when personally meeting in a date, they were actually
loving women who have used their mask to lie, using the Internet to access
humans minds or writings.
There are good stories to talk about (I have published some of them
on the Internet) and this kind of human intercourse may serve those who never
had a real life or a short one for themselves. “Dating” or playing “Hide
and Seek” on the Internet, as well in real life, may serve some to grow up,
but grown-up Christians ought to be reminded this is just another play that can
hurt and sometimes kill, both, emotionally and physically.
I like those persons, like me, who warn people not to enter.
It's like those houses that placed some signs telling people: “Beware the
dogs”. Is it a rotty dog you would meet? (is it a hungry tiger or
lion?) :P
No transgressors are allowed, but PMs are to “knock down minds
doors”, and it's shown some houses are broken in, same way some minds
are cracked here or somewhere else.
Christians minds are set on God's standards. God's
laws are firewalls and anti-virus.
I know that, those who are using avatars have their reasons to hide
and to avoid being sought.
I have lately seen how girls and ladies are chased in the streets
and on chat rooms. I'm glad God allowed me to be men. I've seen how girls are
pretty different than us, and no wonder why we keep on searching for the
missing piece rather than the missing peace. They are lovable,
because God made them to be lovable, more than once (unless we both misbehave).
I beg women understand our misbehaviors. The world gave us same bad
lessons you were trained to avoid or cling to. The Internet may serve to play
games, but it also serves to train children to avoid being cheated or hurt.
Cats and lions train their kids to live. A dog bites to avoid to be bitten, and
a bee is sweet, unless she sees someone tries to steal her honey (others
money).
I don't like playing games, I won't knock on “risky zones”, I don't
like hidden faces, and will not visit those who deeply love their signs of “Beware
of the dog” placed at the entrance as “welcome” carpets (I
don't like to bark at the wrong tree).
Some Christians sites are bringing blessing rather than other
places. Some of us are so deeply hurt that we do not dare to be healed nor try
to healing (that's lawful and conventional allowed).
Perhaps here, on earth, we have too little common ground. Perhaps my
likeness serves only my mirror so wash my face, to look at my thoughts, and to
be engaged with dreams, because urban people like to find out where their prey
is... Is this instinctively done by Christians too? I quit!
Life is a lottery, and I have heard the same. I don't want to bet
any longer: “No one could receive anything if it doesn't come from above.”
I beg His righteous kingdom come into my life. I beg to be taken
into His present and have some room to be a true hermit, the way I think I am.
Betting never pays well! Because: “Easy comes easy goes”
Looking at the positive.
I love Jesus' way to approach people. He wasn't playing games and,
more than that, He played honesty when asking questions. I'd like to share the
way He talked to a solitary woman, during the noon of a hot day (John 4:6).
They talked and, apparently, they both were alone (John 4:8), because the disciples
marveled when returning (John 4:27). Jesus wasn't playing “Hide and Seek”, He
wasn't sending hypocritical PMs, but He only asked her to bring her mate to
share, and she said she wasn't married (John 4:16-18). Was she wearing
our social mask?
She became interested in which thing He has to offer and, in fact,
she asked Him, who He was (John 4:12).
Jesus was not judgmental. Instead, He said she was telling “the
truth”, but we are aware she was telling another thing and many of
us say one thing, avoiding telling the envious or hidden truth: Are you
single? I'm divorced. Would I rather say engaged? No! I can't afford it.
Jesus always acted according to His preaching. That time, 2000
years, He came to save; next time He will come to judge, but interceding for
those He knew, for those He loved, those who have repented their sins.
We don't know what is in everybody's mind, but we play hide and
seek. Jesus knew she was telling half the truth and He acknowledged
the positive side of it, and bypassed the negative. We play games and hurt, but
that's not the way it should be.
Why some people warn not to use PMs? (Personal Messages)
Why do I need to use PMs, if I can say openly my real thoughts? Secrecy
is foolish. The Internet servers are monitored and, more important than this, I
could be banned by God ETERNALLY.
We are afraid many things. We don't want to be molested and
disturbed. We don't want to be hurt (while hurting and hunting).
I seldom go to hidden faces or places. I always looked after nice
looking faces, and seldom to the ugly duck...
Should I say, instead, “We” to mention more people than just
the evil in me? (I regret this code working in my mind, so I protest.)
I will not apologize for being me. I cannot remove this program (but
I keep on trying).
I thank you just for being you, for letting me know who
you are; and I did nothing to help, but confessed and denounce the world we
all are living in.