Girls / women aren´t too
concern on love at my age, but on money (and the things they think
they need as sex). I don´t regret telling you this, because these
are the things I have seen (and widely lived out).
Additionally, as you are
seeking advice, is don´t show them you have self pity. They will see
you weak, "unlovable" once you show you real concern and,
perhaps, that is probably based on a recurrent rejection you might
have felt (or so).
You are not a demon, you
are not an evil and, the human EGO is the hardest thing to beat and
conquer within yourself.
Besides, ABSOLUTELLY
confirmed: Love is a gift! That
is a God´s given gift.
Save a lot, work a lot!
(Money is blindly $ought, and needed to keep things
going on)
Just look at Michael
Jackson, he had problems to accept himself the color and the face he
had and he did what he thought he needed to be accepted but, the real
thing drawing people to him were: Money, Fame... Although I like his
music, he was highly talented (but a loner). So you´d better change
that to avoid being a loner.
I´m a loner. I don´t
regret it too much now and, besides, I´m happy because -one day- my
search will be over (while I´m getting older).
May GOD give you a person
WHO LOVES YOU for the person you are.
The thing is, when you
get too much money -when you dress up the way they would like you
more... Will they love you for the person you are? ( or
for the person they think you are? )
Will you change (and
renounce) the person you really are?
Isn´t that a denial of
the person you actually are?
The most important thing
in life is acceptance (self-acceptance). I know I can love a person
who has got AIDS, who is sick or facing some temporal ailments but,
one who feels self pity, one who wants me to be another person I
am not, is a pain in the ass I cannot bear.
What´s wrong in you? I
see nothing wrong and WITHIN YOU -your soul- is the real man you are:
Just polish that inner man who have felt despised and hurt, because
any nice present would come in a fancy box, with a beautiful red
ribbon, but THE INSIDE OF EACH PERSON is what really matters, as a
gift.
Stop hurting yourself,
brother! You don´t deserve that.
The only person I know
worths my resignation, my renouncing and surrendering of all is GOD.
There´s no one else who
would give me THE BEST, than He.
Accept the man you are:
He loves us the way we are: Big or fat, young or old.
He loves us all!
Let´s suppose you´ve
got a haircut, What would be the next thing people would like to
change in you?
Persons are easy to ask
things, but meager to give, instead.
In my case (this week) I
tried to please the woman I liked and, expending the last night in
her bedroom, she told me: "I don´t like your feet"
...
What? “Another thing”,
I said to myself.
Wow! Do I have any power
to make my feet be liked? Will I hide it with socks?
I have received two
haircuts lately.
Each time I went her home
she wanted me shaved and she -herself- cut my hair off, to "look"
the way she liked me...
How could I change my
feet to please her, this time (or another time)?
My understanding is this:
If a person if not really liked, it is Ok but, if I don´t like
myself, I would remain hopeless and, fortunately, my feet is an
average feet, 7 inches, these are complete and functional but, What
about those who cannot walk or dance?
What if any tell them: "I
don´t like you feet", "you leg", "your
eyes", etc. That is simple rejection!
She (or he) is not lying
when telling “their opinion”, but don´t dare to tell yours: They
will hurt you the more.
Who am I to ask beauty,
if I am not an Adonis, or a wealthy prince?
The world is so selfish,
so mundane, that I regret telling you my secular life and this fresh
experience I´m sharing, but I´m sure that there´s much more than
appearance involved: Unholy rejection.
If a person is not
accepted the person he is -as friends- he has the right to flee from
those who lie with their hypocrisy or mild "kindness";
because no one is really ugly or beautiful (just within the mind of
the person who perceives such ideas of ugliness or beauty).
As a man, I know what I
can freely reject from a woman and also know what they reject; but I
don´t have enough freedom to expose all I have learnt and also, I
don´t have the permission to publish the opinions and those things
my friends have said... Just one example (because I see this very
personal):
I have a friend, a
neighbor, who is married. We had a famous singer who lived in our
tiny town and, the moment she married certain wealthy man, my friend
said: "I wish I could
marry a man like that. He is ugly, ugly as a sin... but he owns
several universities (in Venezuela) and I wish I had married one like
this... He is ugly, but beautifully rich".
That is not the view
of all Christian women but, families, somewhat, had played the
role of a pimp when telling their children: "Marry this"
or "leave that man for this", because priorities are
set on beauty, money, sex. etc. and, as Jesus said: "Your
heart is where your treasure is". ( Mat_6:21,
Luk_12:34 )
I agree and believe in
Jesus, the Lord and the Christ; but we -too often- set values on
earthly and corruptible temporal things.
I had two haircuts in two
weeks but -inwardly- I am the same and, of course, I will not change
by outer means.
Acceptance, too, is
another form of love and I spent years to accept myself; because I
used to think the way the world wanted me to think and Jesus said:
Joh 15:18 "If the
world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.
Joh 7:7 The world cannot
hate you, but it hates me because I
say that what everyone does is evil.
Joh 15:19 If you had
anything in common with the world, the world would love you as one of
its own. But you don't have anything in common with the world. I
chose you from the world, and that's why the world hates you.
May
his grace reach us all.
A.T.
